I've been slowly chipping away at Brennan Manning's
Abba's Child for about 6 months now. Because I can't understand the sermon on Sunday mornings at my church, I've been reading this book during the service.
Here's something I read this morning that really grabbed my attention:
Only in a relationship of the deepest intimacy can we allow another person to know us as we truly are. It is difficult enough for us to live with the awareness of our stinginess and shallowness, our anxieties and infidelities, but to disclose our dark secrets to another is intolerably risky. The impostor does not want to come out of hiding. He will grab for the cosmetic kit and put on his pretty face to make himself "presentable." Whom can I level with? To whom can I bare my soul? Whom dare I tell that I am benevolent and malevolent, chaste and randy, compassionate and vindictive, selfless and selfish, that beneath my brave words lives a frightened child, that I dabble in religion and in pornography, that I have blackened a friend's character, betrayed a trust, violated a confidence, that I am tolerant and thoughtful, a bigot and a blowhard, and that I really hate okra? The greatest fear of all is that if I expose the impostor and lay bare my true self, I will be abandoned by my friends and ridiculed by my enemies.I'm always blown-away by Brennan's honesty of his brokenness. I heard this man speak at Anderson when I was a student there. I was pretty much in awe of his intellect but also his simplicity of character. He loves Jesus and it shows. I wanted to just curl up on a couch with him, drinking tea and bare my soul--all my fears and insecurities. In reading this, I'm reminded of good friends that have been a safe place for me. Of hugs that have swallowed whole my weeping.
Our obsession with privacy is rooted in the fear of rejection. If we sense nonacceptance, we cannot lay down the burden of sin, we can only shift the heavy suitcase from one hand to the other. Likewise, we can only lay bare our sinful hearts when we are certain of receiving forgiveness. What if our churches were all a refuge for broken people?
A haven.
A harbor.
A shelter.
A sanctuary.
How different would a Sunday morning look? How different would our homes look?